Why self-care? Good question.
I talk a lot about self-care. Maybe that’s because even though I am a firm believer in the matter, I often — not sometimes, but often — fall short in this practice. Still I forge ahead, talking about it and making my best effort to implement it in my own life.
Healer, heal thyself.
But what’s the big deal about self-care? Why talk about it at all?
Because, and please hear me, it is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. Some people upon hearing ‘self-anything’ get all up in the notion of selfishness, being self-centered and egotistical, the all-about-me syndrome. NOTHING could be further from the truth of self-care.
Let me tell you a little story.
Once upon a time in the land of light, there was a tiny spark imbued with life and passion and purpose and joy. That spark, through the miracle of birth, came to dwell on a planet bursting with beauty, blessings, and busyness. It grew and took on the ideas and attitudes of those around it. This is how that tiny spark became YOU.
Some of those ideas and attitudes helped you bloom and blossom into the fullness of who you are, and some of them pressed you down, held you back, and sent you to a place where you no longer shone as brightly as you were created to shine.
You took care of others but not yourself.
You did for others but not for yourself.
You cheered on others but, alas, not yourself.
And you believed the world was just that way.
You had gifts to share but could never find the time or the energy for them. No one bothered to tell you it could be otherwise, and you were way too busy with others to figure it out for yourself. And so you continued with the status quo. You just didn’t know.
I don’t mean to be preachy here, but do you realize what a gift your life is? what a gift YOU are to the world? that you are meant to be here? Do you realize we need you here fully intact, well nurtured and cared for so you can share your gifts with the rest of us?
Self-care is about taking care of this life you have been given. It is about taking care of you, not to the exclusion of others, but so you have enough for you and something for you to give back. Lack of self-care can lead to depletion, burnout. It can keep you from being good for anyone at all.
So I busy myself thinking about self-care — ways I can take care of myself and share those ideas with others.
There is no one more important than you NOR are you more important than anyone else.
We all matter. We all have a role to play. We all need a healthy dose of self-care.
Find the simple things you can do for yourself. For me that is taking a walk in the morning. It is spending time in silence. It is eating nourishing food. It is adding healthier choices to replace those that do me no good. It is spending time with people I love. It is watching the sun rise and the stars twinkle above me at night.
These are things I need to do to be the best me possible, to be able to freely offer my gifts and love to others, to fulfill my place in the world and allow my spark to flare up and shine.
So what about you? What can you do to fan your spark, to take care of precious you?
It is not selfish. It is necessary.
I paraphrase my favorite poet, Mary Oliver, here:
Tell me, what is it you plan to do to care for your one wild and precious life
I sincerely hope you will give that some thought and take action.
Love you, meant it!
Let’s create some new habits together.
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